How to create a postpartum support plan (and why a doula should be a part of it!)
A friend sent me these screenshots a few weeks back:
They’re of a woman who is about to have a baby, asking for direct help from her network. In the call for help, she’s asking for things like meals, household support, help playing with her older child, and even overnight stays to help care for the baby so she and her partner can get some sleep.
She suggests nearby grocery stores and restaurants. She gives people specific directions on what they can bring, right down to her and her husband’s coffee orders.
She very specifically says if you want to visit, you should bring something or be prepared to do something to help around the house.
And you know what? I LOVE this. How empowering and freeing to just come right out and ask for the exact help you need during a big life transition!
Everyone needs help following the birth of a baby. That’s why building a strong support system—your very own village—is such an important part of a healthy postpartum experience. So before your baby arrives, spend some time thinking about the people in your community who you can rely on when you need a little extra boost.
Think about who can help provide logistical support.
Who can bring over food, whether it’s snacks, a meal, or groceries?
Who would run a quick errand for me if I’m trapped under a sleeping baby?
Who can I text or call if I have a bunch of questions about the baby?
Who would do the dishes or fold some laundry for me?
Who would be up for watching the baby so I can sleep or rest for a few hours?
Think about who can help provide emotional support.
Who can I text or call when I need to vent?
Who can I text or call when I’m close to tears and need words of encouragement?
Who will provide a safe, judgment-free space for me to share my worries or concerns?
Who will celebrate the small wins and victories with me?
Think about who you can reach out to for socializing
Who has babies or toddlers and would be up for a playdate or park outing?
Who will come over to my house and hang out with me if I feel lonely?
If I need some adult time, who can I reach out to for coffee, lunch, or a walk?
Sometimes we have an amazing village that can help us (like the woman above). But sometimes, we find ourselves in a season of life where we don’t have many people we can turn to for help. Maybe you’ve moved to a new location and are still meeting people. Maybe you don’t live close to your parents or in-laws.
That’s ok! That’s why postpartum doulas exist. We’re here to help fill in the gaps—to step in and recreate the village for new moms and parents, offering a helping hand, a listening ear, and a wealth of knowledge to guide you through this incredible journey.
Remember: you deserve support—and I’m here to help.